Tonight I watched one of those wedding shows about bridal parties shopping for bridesmaid dresses. In every group there was one bridesmaid who was out for herself, looking to please her own desires instead of those of the bride. The selfishness these girls displayed was shocking and disgusting.
What saddened me more was that no one really stood up to them. No one put them in their place. No one said, “This day is not about YOU, so shut your mouth and do what will make the bride happy on her special day.” I wanted to reach through the tv and punch them in the mouth.
I’m sure it’s easy for me to express my outrage while I’m on the outside. That sabotaging bridesmaid is not my sister or best friend or childhood buddy. But seriously - to sit there and take that crap would push me over the edge.
It made me think about why I’m not so easily intimidated by people. By situations and circumstances, maybe. But not by people. Why would I be? They’re just people.
What I AM intimidated by are some peoples’ accomplishments. For example, advanced martial artists or Olympians, or those in the military. Their level of dedication and discipline just blows me away. Even someone like Oprah Winfrey, whom I do not particularly like for many reasons, is someone whose accomplishments are impressive to me. Especially considering where she came from, she had to work extremely hard and make a lot of sacrifices to achieve everything she has today.
I’m impressed by those who overcome adversity. Who work their tails off to make something of their lives. Who give selflessly and sacrificially to others. I’m intimidated by peoples’ altruism, creativity, self-discipline – traits I don’t always possess.
But that bridesmaid who insulted the bride to her face and acted like a brat on national television? Not so much.
OK, I’m getting off my shoebox now.